January 12th, 2008Lets Learn to Learn the Hard Way…
This past month and a half has been one of the toughest of my professional career thus far! Reasons? Me, myself and my emotions. 
Anand dont act like a child, please grow up!
Anand I dont trust you anymore!!
Anand you are the biggest emotional fool i have seen!!!
Anand I hate you!!!!
My actions made me hear the above sentences from people very close to me over the past month and a half. Did I give up? YES and then NO. I had given up but then I was motivated by my well-wishers to keep going. And I am glad that I did keep going!!
I have been learning to learn things in life the ‘hard way‘ for this past month and a half.When I look back to the hard times, the title of this post rings in my mind… Let me share with you all how one can learn (according to me) to “learn the hard way”
1. Be your biggest critic: Criticisms from others is the last thing one would want. But, if we can learn to take the criticisms in a positive manner and work upon them then we will surely succeed. Hence, being one’s own critic always helps!
2. Control your emotions: Emotion, this word goes hand in hand with me. Although I always try my best to hide my emotions, I end up on the wrong side. One cannot hope to do well in any field if he/she is too emotional. Emotion while at work is a dampener for sure.
3. Keep personal and professional relations aside: Another aspect I am seriously working on. Workplace relationships are not helpful at all. Thus, its always better to keep any personal relation away from one’s professional life.
4. Deserve before you desire: Do you dream of getting success before you really deserve it? Are you over-confident with what you do? If the answers are yes, better leave aside the thought that you will succeed! Patience is the key. I have always believed in “if I carry out my responsibilities to the best of my abilities, no one can stop me from doing well.” Bottomline, one should always wait for the right moment to arrive.
5. Learn to accept mistakes: I think i have been quite adamant at times in my life, to accept my own mistakes! This has resulted in a few strained relationships as well. I am learning to leave aside the bad attitude of not accepting my own misdeeds.
6. Think before you leap: Very important indeed. I have made my life a mess many a times just for not thinking enough before taking the plunge.
I can write a whole lot more here but that would make some of you go off to sleep! Lets see if you can add something more here…
So, until next time…
AK
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January 15th, 2008 at 4:59 am
Well said!
January 15th, 2008 at 5:01 am
Are “nandu” tu jaisa bhi hai bahut achaa hai. do not think too much. bas kam karta jaa. Kamiabi tera kadam chume gi.:)
January 15th, 2008 at 5:11 am
>> Criticisms from others is the last thing one would want.
Keep doing things in an honest way. You are bound to get criticisms. One sentence that inspires me is, “Gandhi ji was shot dead as SOMEONE thought he is doing something wrong”
>> Control your emotions
You already know that. Do you become emotional infront of a policeman, no you don’t. Just be strong and more logical, sometimes take a step back and take your time to decide.
>> Deserve before you desire
Desire, follow you desire to the level that you become a deserved candidate for it. Desire is very much needed, so don’t worry in desiring (dreaming).
Keep getting involved in various acts and it will teach you diverse lessons.
Final word: “It’s ok to be a human, It’s ok to be anand so stay anand”
January 15th, 2008 at 5:11 am
@ Antara - Thanks!
@ Prasanta da - Thanks to you Prasanta da. Waise I like the new name “nandu”
AK
January 15th, 2008 at 5:43 am
@ Aji Sir - Thank you so much for the comment Sir.
I have learnt many a things from you, both on the professional as well as the personal front. I promise you that I will try and become a more strong human being in the future. 
AK
January 15th, 2008 at 6:15 am
Stay the way you are Anand.
I simply like my ‘cute little bro’ just the way he is.
January 15th, 2008 at 7:26 am
These are some precious guidelines which will make any “person” a “proper human”. At times a few are really tough to go with, but…
January 15th, 2008 at 8:13 am
Tips:
1. Dont Ever Trust AnyOne.There Is no One Who would Remain With U in This fake World.Every one here is So mean !
2. Karmanye Vaadhika-raste,Maa Phaleshu Kadachana;Maa karma-phala-hetur-bhoorma,MaTe sangostwakarmini.
3. Always believe in yourself, whatever happens in your no-one is responsible other then you so never blame to other, take the suggestion from everyone, but always do what you think right.
So, forget all tips, do what you think what ever you like.
January 15th, 2008 at 8:46 am
>> Dont Ever Trust AnyOne.There Is no One Who would Remain With U in This fake World.Every one here is So mean !
:), When you feel like trusting TRUST, when you feel like not trusting don’t trust .. Without trusting others the life will be too different and illogical.
January 15th, 2008 at 9:41 am
>> Without trusting others the life will be too different and illogical.
In any relationships when ever there is trust you have expectation and when expectation not fulfill, then people hurt.
So, simple logic
0% trust * 0% expectation = 0% chance of hurt.
There is no relationship in this world where there is no expectation.
January 15th, 2008 at 11:26 am
Kyun is kadar hairaan tu
Mausam ka hai mehmaan tu
Duniya sajee tere liye
Khud ko zara pehchaan tu
Tu dhoop hain jham se bikhar
Tu hai nadee o bekhabar
Beh chal kahin ud chal kahin
Dil khush jahan teri toh manzil hai wahin
Kyun is kadar hairaan tu
Mausam ka hai mehmaan tu